We just don’t know the “stuff” people are carrying around with them every day. We can’t see the pain behind the mask on their faces. We all do it… Smile and pretend everything’s just fine. That’s our answer when someone says, “How are you?” “Fine,” we say. Are we really and truly “fine?”
Sometimes I say, “I’m doing well, thank you.” Or “hanging in there, how about you?” Mostly, I don’t want to unload my burdens on other people when they really don’t want to know. Asking “How are you?” is more of a greeting, like saying “good morning.” I figure if somebody truly wants to know how I am, they will stop and give me a hug or take a minute to have some conversation and really find out how I am doing. And I’ll do the same.
The song in my head this morning is an old spiritual called Nobody Knows the Trouble I’ve Seen. “Nobody knows my sorrow. Nobody knows the trouble I’ve seen. Nobody knows but Jesus.” Don’t we sometimes feel that Jesus is the only person who really knows what I’m feeling? The only one who genuinely understands my heart?
Sometimes I’m up. Sometimes I’m down. Sometimes I’m almost to the ground!
Sometimes, I need another person to come alongside and help me carry the load. Someone to rejoice with. Someone to cry with. We are called to “bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” -Galatians 6:2 True imitators of Christ… Christians… Because Jesus is our supreme example of how to bear one another’s burdens. He bore ALL our sin and shame on the cross. He took it all on himself. Surely I can take five minutes to say, “How are you?” And really want to know the answer!